We, as a society, seem to be more isolated, more self-centered, less trusting and less kind. How exactly we arrived at this point is less important than deciding what actions we are going to take to turn the tide and to be an example to the younger generations of a better way of living in community.
Deep in our hearts, we all know the truth that God should be first in our lives, others should be second, and then we should come somewhere after that. What’s ironic is that we are promised personal fulfillment and ‘happiness’ in this life and the next if we adopt this lifestyle. Not necessarily ‘happiness’ as the world defines it – self-absorbed pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of anything uncomfortable – but ‘happiness’ in the sense of ‘I know my purpose in the world and I’m ready to get up each morning and make that difference'.
As we celebrate moms and motherhood this month, we would like to salute single moms (and dads) in a special way. Being a single parent is an incredibly difficult vocation that takes courage, fortitude, and commitment. The single moms and dads that we have been fortunate to meet over the years through Life Tools Tutoring are selfless warriors who are singularly focused on providing their children with the tools and skills to be successful and fulfilled.
Technology is advancing at lightning speed and the world is changing rapidly, but at the same time, kids are still kids and there is no need to re-invent the wheel when it comes to discipline and a healthy family.
It may be true that the ‘Go outside and be back by dark’ ship has sailed, but might it be possible to rediscover the value of neighborhood communities?
Social media, like the internet itself, has the ability to connect people, share knowledge and improve our lives. Unfortunately, like the internet, social media has the ability to tear people down, create self-doubt and intentionally mislead.
We are forced to make hundreds of decisions every day; commit yourself to making the right decision every time, every day. Although a perfect record is not possible, you will eventually develop habits that will allow you, your family, and your community to flourish.
If we are not careful, our lives can become poorly controlled chaos where we see each other in passing as we are running out the door or jamming some fast food down our throats in order to check off the next thing on the list. So, how do we as parents re-take control of our lives and our family’s peace of mind while still exposing our children to a broad spectrum of experiences and activities? The key is to know that you have choices, you are in control of your schedule, and most importantly, your kids are depending on you to protect them from the chaos.
Asking for and bestowing forgiveness are critical skill sets that your children will require as they navigate the challenges that come with human interaction. If your children learn to be comfortable with both sides of the forgiveness coin, they will be happier and healthier adults who will be more likely to pursue their dreams and self-actualize.
Parenting is so much more than friendship. It is a responsibility to do what is right for the child, even when it means sacrificing ourselves or getting the cold-shoulder for a time.
