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Grit

Our students today are overwhelmed with information and skills training.  By the time a student enters first grade, they have been exposed to a plethora of digital information including video games, educational material, societal propaganda, and sports trivia.  As they progress through their early years of elementary school, many are enrolled in piano, dance, sporting activities, theater, scouts, etc., in addition to the academic training they are receiving at school.  Upon graduation, our students have acquired a large stockpile of information and skill-sets, some of which are transferable to the ‘real world’ and many that are not.

Older adults who have experienced their share of life’s ups and down will tell you that life can be difficult.  Dealing successfully with those difficulties requires grit, and, in spite of their busyness, many of our young people have not developed this critical skill set.

Grit can only be developed through hardship, and we as parents are ‘experts to a fault’ at ensuring that our students avoid any form of hardship.  We may have negative recollections of our struggles in our younger years, and our parental instincts tell us to move in and create a human shield between our children and those difficult situations.  Unfortunately, in the process, we are depriving the younger generation of a coping mechanism that may be the difference between thriving, and personal or professional collapse.

There are many opportunities to expose our students to healthy doses of adversity, which in turn will allow them to develop grit and perseverance.  One easy example is sporting activities.  Coaching your student’s sports team is great way to spend quality time together while working toward a common goal; however, it may not be helpful to coach and direct every sports experience that your child has.  Issues like limited playing time, not making the ‘A’ team, or being displaced by the coach’s child, even if they are, at times, unjust, provide our students (and our entire families) with ‘learning opportunities’.

Your child will learn, as most adults have learned, that life is not always fair, and we often do not control many aspects of life that are coming at us.  What we can control is how we respond to the negative.  Do we shut down and cower?  Do we scream victim status and demand to be heard?  Do we internalize the negative result and let that negativity determine our self-worth?  Or, do we swallow hard, sulk for a day or two, and then move on to the next opportunity that awaits us?  Or, even better, do we re-double our efforts in that activity and take another shot at it to prove our ability or value? (eg; Abraham Lincoln and Michael Jordan).

A part-time job is also an excellent way to safely expose your student to a variety of challenging situations that will require resilience and mental toughness.  A job in customer service can sometimes be ‘unpleasant’ when dealing with a disgruntled or just plain angry customer.  From this experience, our students can develop the skill of diplomacy and can learn to remain confident and sure of themselves even when taking fire.  Working early in the morning, on a Saturday night, or in the hot summer sun teaches young people that doing what needs doing is not always pleasant or a first choice.  Over time, a sense of satisfaction and pride from working hard will replace the original feelings of laziness and self-doubt.

So the next time your student is battling the inevitable hardships that come with life, think twice before you swoop in and make everything all better.  Allow your student to work through the challenge and develop the strength that comes with that effort.  Then provide affirmation to assist them to realize and celebrate what they have accomplished.  Life is tough.  Make sure your students have the tools they will need to thrive.

By: Beth Voet

Look forward to the future with Life Tools!

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Thank you again for ALL you did to help our son. We couldn’t have done it without you.  I’m so proud of the young man he has become.  Looking forward to seeing what the future holds for him as he goes off to college!

– Becky, mother of a high school student

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Strong Kids.  Proud Parents.

ACT Test Prep Makes a Difference!

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“Our daughter came home from the ACT test and said, ‘I felt really smart.’  I know she is smart, but the boost in her confidence because of preparedness is so great for us to see.  She felt really good about the test and that has not been the case in the past.  Thank you.  You are really good at what you do.”

– Lynn, mother of a high school student

Call us at 920-284-9536 if we can help your student with test preparedness!

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Individualized Tutoring For Your Individual Student

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When parents are searching for a tutor for their student, scrolling through random profiles of anonymous tutors on a national marketing website can be a very frustrating and uncomfortable process. At Life Tools Tutoring, we take the guess-work out of it. By taking the time to learn about the specific needs of your student, we can then match those needs with the gifts and talents of the appropriate tutor from our experienced team of tutors.

As one satisfied parent shared:
“[Life Tools Tutoring] knows the strengths of their staff and work hard to place a student with the best fit for the student’s learning style.”

Beyond providing subject-matter expertise, our tutors will also integrate specific life skills training, including organization, study skills, focus, accountability and independence, into the tutoring sessions. We will match your student with the perfect tutor, and we will walk with you throughout the tutoring process.

Our goals are your goals…Strong Kids.  Proud Parents.

Parenting Tips: Tools to Assist Your Struggling Student

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Seeing your child struggle can be one of the most painful experiences a parent could go through.

Life Tools Tutoring has a few tips for parents and caretakers on how to help a student who may be struggling:
  • If your student is struggling in a particular subject or with school in general, they will more than likely take their frustrations out on you. Have a conversation with your student so that your student knows you are both on the same team. Together you are going to take control of (math/reading/etc.).
  • If your student struggles in math, you are not allowed to say, “I always hated math too,” or “I was never any good at math either”. Education begins at home, so your challenge is to dig in and learn what your student is learning so you can help. If that is not possible, find someone who can.
  • Success in school comes with confidence. Confidence comes with success. Work hard with your student to get the homework correct and study hard for the quizzes/tests. Good grades on the first few assignments and tests can quickly build your student’s confidence.
  • Practice, practice, practice. Don’t be afraid to require your own ‘homework’ for your student. Practicing math facts 15 minutes each night, 30 minutes of required reading, or extra worksheets from your student’s teacher will also help to build your student’s confidence.
  • Make study time a fun time to be together. If you are grumpy while you are studying with your student, or if homework time is rushed, your student will have a negative attitude toward school work.
  • Require your student to stay organized and hold them accountable. Nothing takes the wind out of a struggling student’s sails like a zero on a missing homework assignment or a test that they forgot was coming.
  • Try to be positive at all times. Even if your student is not making the progress you had hoped, keep your expectations high and speak positively about your student’s abilities and potential.
If you’re ready to take the next step, listen below to hear how Life Tools Tutoring can produce positive results in your student.

Parenting Tips: Transitioning into the new school year

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The new school year is underway but it’s not too late to assess the transition and to make any needed adjustments.

Life Tools Tutoring has a few tips for parents and caretakers on how to help promote a successful school year:
  • Make sure your student is getting enough sleep. Sleep is critical for success with school work and success socially.  Elementary school students should be getting 10 – 12 hours per night, middle school students 9 – 11 and high school students 8 – 10.
  • If your school does not require that your student fill out an assignment notebook (agenda) every night, buy one for your student and require that it be filled out. Making a written list is a great way to teach your student accountability and responsibility.
  • Set aside consistent study times if possible. For example, the house is quiet and your students are studying or reading from 6:30 to 7:30 pm Monday through Thursday.
  • Get involved in your students’ studies. That does NOT mean do their homework for them, but it does mean familiarizing yourself with their coursework, teachers, and extra-curriculars.
  • Make the school week fun. A special pancake breakfast, cookies at the end of the school day, or ‘movie night’ when the homework is done are a few ideas on how to add excitement to the regular routine!
It’s also not too late to get your student signed up with a tutor! Listen below to learn about the benefits of putting your student on the path to success with Life Tools Tutoring.