The Importance of Sleep for your Student

When discussing the topic of health with our young people, diet and exercise are covered extensively.  What middle schooler would struggle to recite the critical role that fruits and vegetables, protein and fats play in assisting a growing body and a developing mind to flourish?  Likewise, physical exercise for children of all ages is promoted by school systems, community recreation centers and public service announcements on television, radio, and the internet (eg: NFL’s Play60).  Proper eating habits and regular exercise are two very important components to assist your student to be happy and successful as young people and as adults.

The third leg of that stool, sleep, is sometimes relegated to the back shelf of “well that’s assumed” or “that varies by the student”.  In other cases, sleep takes a back seat to busy schedules that include early morning bus pick-ups, sports, homework and/or video game playing.  Along with eating right and regular exercise, the proper amount of sleep can reduce and, in some cases, eliminate many of the challenges our young people are facing, including anxiety, depression, lack of focus, and behavioral problems.

Those of us who have raised babies and toddlers know all-to-well the disaster that awaits any parent who decides to alter a young child’s sleep habits.  How many of us have regretted our decision to ‘shop for just another 30 minutes’ (even though it is nap time) or to stay up late with the kids because we had company over?  Inevitably, the next day can be miserable for the child and equally as difficult for the parents and others who may have to deal with the child.  The child’s emotions are heightened, their ability to make good choices is limited, patience evaporates entirely, and in general everything just seems bad.  In the same way, we as adults can agree that when we are tired, we do not perform as efficiently and in some cases our attitudes and behaviors are not what we would like them to be.

Although life as an adult can be stressful in many ways, our students are dealing with many demands, pressures, and responsibilities, many of which are brand new to them.  Their bodies are growing and changing, and they are expected to juggle school, sports, friendships, and possibly a part-time job; in addition, in many cases there are aspects of their home life that may not be ideal.  Students who are tired do not have the ability to pay attention in class or retain new information; they often become irritable and dramatic, which directly affects their ability to develop quality friendships; they have cloudier outlooks on life events and in some cases are not able to process these events realistically; their creativity is stymied and their imagination shuts down.

According to the National Sleep Foundation, children ages 3-5 require between 11 and 13 hours of sleep each night, children ages 6-13 require between 10 and 12 hours of sleep, and teenagers between the ages of 14-17 require 9 to 10 hours of sleep.

Achieving the higher end of these sleep ranges for your child can be difficult.  Most children would rather stay up than go to bed.  A regular routine needs to be established and expectations need to be clear.  Parents need to assist their students in completing homework, sports practices, work schedules, etc. so that the student can realistically reach those sleep targets.  Quiet time or reading time before bedtime, if possible, makes the transition from the busy day to a restful night sleep easier.

Although ensuring your child gets enough sleep each night is not easy, you will be providing your student the gift of a clearer mind, a healthier body, and a brighter attitude on life.

By: Beth Voet

Parenting Tips: Tools to Assist Your Struggling Student


Seeing your child struggle can be one of the most painful experiences a parent could go through.

Life Tools Tutoring has a few tips for parents and caretakers on how to help a student who may be struggling:
  • If your student is struggling in a particular subject or with school in general, they will more than likely take their frustrations out on you. Have a conversation with your student so that your student knows you are both on the same team. Together you are going to take control of (math/reading/etc.).
  • If your student struggles in math, you are not allowed to say, “I always hated math too,” or “I was never any good at math either”. Education begins at home, so your challenge is to dig in and learn what your student is learning so you can help. If that is not possible, find someone who can.
  • Success in school comes with confidence. Confidence comes with success. Work hard with your student to get the homework correct and study hard for the quizzes/tests. Good grades on the first few assignments and tests can quickly build your student’s confidence.
  • Practice, practice, practice. Don’t be afraid to require your own ‘homework’ for your student. Practicing math facts 15 minutes each night, 30 minutes of required reading, or extra worksheets from your student’s teacher will also help to build your student’s confidence.
  • Make study time a fun time to be together. If you are grumpy while you are studying with your student, or if homework time is rushed, your student will have a negative attitude toward school work.
  • Require your student to stay organized and hold them accountable. Nothing takes the wind out of a struggling student’s sails like a zero on a missing homework assignment or a test that they forgot was coming.
  • Try to be positive at all times. Even if your student is not making the progress you had hoped, keep your expectations high and speak positively about your student’s abilities and potential.


Parenting Tips: Transitioning into the new school year


The new school year is underway but it’s not too late to assess the transition and to make any needed adjustments.

Life Tools Tutoring has a few tips for parents and caretakers on how to help promote a successful school year:
  • Make sure your student is getting enough sleep. Sleep is critical for success with school work and success socially.  Elementary school students should be getting 10 – 12 hours per night, middle school students 9 – 11 and high school students 8 – 10.
  • If your school does not require that your student fill out an assignment notebook (agenda) every night, buy one for your student and require that it be filled out. Making a written list is a great way to teach your student accountability and responsibility.
  • Set aside consistent study times if possible. For example, the house is quiet and your students are studying or reading from 6:30 to 7:30 pm Monday through Thursday.
  • Get involved in your students’ studies. That does NOT mean do their homework for them, but it does mean familiarizing yourself with their coursework, teachers, and extra-curriculars.
  • Make the school week fun. A special pancake breakfast, cookies at the end of the school day, or ‘movie night’ when the homework is done are a few ideas on how to add excitement to the regular routine!


10 Ways to Reduce Single-Parent Stress

“One of every four American children today lives in a single-parent home. And though the circumstances may vary (some parents are divorced, others are widowed, and others are single parents by choice), the reality is that solo parenting is often stressful, demanding, and hectic. If you are a single mom or dad, there are 10 things you can do to help minimize the stress in your life — and bring back the joy of parenting.”

Read more here…

Strong Kids

Parenting Tricks and Tips from Life Tools Tutoring!

Today’s Tip: Strong Kids.

Life is tough. Although the specifics of the struggles vary from person to person, suffering, disappointment and loss are very much a part of the human condition. And as much as we, as parents, want to shield our children from those struggles throughout their lives, they will experience those challenges.

So, instead of investing huge amounts of time and resources in insulating our student from “real life”, our time would be better spent on forming strong students with strong characters. Here are a few suggestions that we have gathered from outstanding parents who have raised very strong children…

1. Let your student experience some of life’s disappointments. If he took third place in the tournament, celebrate with him, but don’t go buy him a trophy and pretend he won first place. Third place is great, and if he and his teammates work harder next year, they may just win first place.

2. Service. When we teach our students that the entire universe revolves around them, they come to expect everyone’s attention and constant assistance. Then, when it comes time for them to step out into the real world, life smacks them in nose. Bring them (don’t send them) on regular service opportunities where they can learn that the greatest fulfillment in life comes from giving to others.

3. Make them work. Chores around the house, a part-time job, or mowing lawn for grandma are just a few examples. Students that do not know how to work turn into adults who do not know how to work. Adults that do not know how to work will not reach their full potential and will have major regrets.

4. Discipline. If you haven’t already noticed, sometimes young people make bad choices. Use the safety of your home to give your student a small taste of how the world will punish them if they make bad choices as an adult. If they are late coming home, take away the car for a week. (If they are late to work on a regular basis, they will be fired). If they choose not to put their laundry in the basket, make them do their own laundry. (If they expect others to pick up after them, their marriage may not survive)

Strong kids will make strong adults who will move mountains. Start today!